Nice guys? Bye guys. 

Nice guys finish last because nice guys are asshole. 

I get asked all the time by people “why can’t you like him, he likes you.” Do you know what I wanna say to those people? Fuck you it’s none of your business back the fuck of. What I end up saying is “I know he likes me but I’m not interested in anything right now.” Which is a lie because I’m always interested. 

Now this guy who seems to be head over heels for me will either stop talking to me all together or say something very negative to me when he finds out the news. 

Now I’ve been rejected before plenty of times and I take it on the chin, cry for a week and eat myself silly. But I still continue talking to the person because I like them for a reason, I obviously enjoy their presence in my life. 

Now nice guys have a whole different agenda. For starters I’m sick of calling them nice guys, because that puts a bad spin on people who are actually nice. Let’s call them Dickheads. 

Dickheads will start talking to you very friendly. You can meet them anywhere; work, party or even just online. They are always real friggan nice in the beginning (hence the name) and they stay nice the whole time. I start to build a friendship with these guys, thinking so highly of them.

Now this can go on for days or months and at some put and a lot of other girls are the same, if I genuinely liked them I would have said something by then or just gotten drunk and made my move. 

If I haven’t in months and I’ve had opportunities to then no I’m not interested. 

Now the next stage is usually this person makes their intention clear. Now this is the part that can annoy me, they don’t tell me. I get told by a mutual friend putting me in a pretty awkward situation and bringing someone else into the “relationship.” 

I’m not a bitch. I’m not aggressive. I let you down gently and go on my way. 

You retaliate. Oh yeah if you don’t stop talking to me all together you go behind my back and tell people how I used you and I friend zoned you.

Speaking of which friend zoned is also bullshit. I have never friend zoned anyone in my life. When I meet someone I’m a friend first and a fuck after. I’m not thinking straight away oh wow when can I date this person. I mean sure sometimes I want to have sex with a person but that doesn’t diminish my interest in friendship.

Look my point is. Nice guys are mean and horrible. I hate lumping a group of men together because everyone is different. But at the same time when I hear nice guys don’t get the girl it makes me mad. 

Nice guys do get the girls! Do you know who doesn’t? Guys only interested in sex, who say they like me after a few days or weeks of talking and stop talking to me all together when I say I’m not interested. 

I’m a person too. I don’t like being mean or harsh and I will give anyone a go. Sometimes all I want is a mate and not someone to mate with. 


How one sexual encounter changed my outlook

Okay yeah I need to work on my titles and if anyone has any suggestions I am all ears.
This was not my first sexual anything with anyone. I had been in relationships before and had sex plenty of times before but this one time really changed my outlook on how I perceived sex and how I looked at others having sex. I’m not a judgy person, I try to not be, I keep an open mind and hear all sides of the story. This is one occasion when no one bothered to hear mine.
Let me paint a picture of a younger, probably slightly skinnier and terrible hair cut version of my more mature self now. I was newly 18, graduated high school the year prior and like today I still had no idea where my life was going. In jumps *Mathew, I had known him on and off since I was 15 and he was only a few years older than me. Mathew looked like a fucking psycho but he really was a teddy bear.
Long black hair, weird facial hair, odd accent, tall, not so charming, not very fit, kinda funny and just fucking weird. There were a lot of ways to describe Mathew, he wore long black leather pants, trench coats and weird eye contacts to the pub. He wasn’t your average Australian in a small town. I thought we had a connection, looking back now it really was what every guy was to me back then, nothing. I don’t mean that in a horrible way, Mathew was my friend, we shared so much of one another but I wasn’t attracted to him and I didn’t think of him as more than a friend.
Of course, me having no real interaction with boys just took my interest in him being a friend as more. Anyway, besides that Mathew and I had sex. I remember it being a real build up over the course of a few months. From drinking, to cuddling and hanging out more. I was newly 18 and ready to be with someone more mature and different. I was looking for some kinky and/or rough sex.
Do you know what I got?
I got a grown man running out of the bedroom at 2am and me following 5 minutes later to see him in another room, in the dark, trying to get himself hard.
I was pretty fucked up.
It was my fault though. I went into the situation like I did with all the boys before me. Putting in little to no effort and hoping they’d cum quick so I could roll over and sleep, preferably spooning. I got from Mathew, touching and feeling and it felt nice and great but I didn’t want to kiss him. I didn’t want to touch him or be touched by him. I was so court up in just having sex with whomever that I never thought about wanting that person.
Mathew was a good guy, a really good champ. I think he knew that I wasn’t interested, maybe he thought he could change my mind or get my horny enough. I don’t even know, we’ve only mentioned it to each other a handful of times, usually with a laugh.
Mathew was a good guy until he wasn’t.
We all know guys change who they are around their mates. I always thought Mathew was different. I was very wrong. Less than a month after our last attempted fuck I was left crying in a bathtub.
Okay lets quickly flash forward, there wasn’t any backlash between Mathew and I after that night. We still talked and our friendship seemed to have gotten better. He started hanging out with other friends of mine and all seemed to be put behind us.
We were at a friend’s 18th, I wasn’t a huge fan of telling my two best friends about my sex life, mostly in fear of the bullying I received. This time was no different and it took me a couple of weeks after Mathew and I were together for me to tell them. They knew and it had become a funny joke between us all.
I can remember drinking a lot so I was pretty wasted early in the night and after 2 naps I was good to go. I was in the bathroom, chillin out being my drunken self and probably staggering around the bathroom. I heard my two best friends outside and I heard Mathew. Greetings were made and as I was ready to go out to them when I heard a conversation that sobered me up quick.
One of them asked about Mathew and I hooking up. Mathew’s answer was that we did not have sex and I was lying. Instead of my two best friends jumping in on my defence I got to stand there and listen to them talk about how they knew I was lying about having sex with Mathew because I had also lied about previous sex partners and I was a liar and I was shitty and blah blah blah.
Honestly though I was pretty mortal and I don’t remember much of what was said. But my feelings were very hurt! Not only did I feel ugly and rejected from Mathew but my two best friends believed him straightaway.
I stayed in the bathtub for 30 minutes before I had to leave because some underaged chick sculled my vodka and was dying. I left that bathroom with my head held higher and now a little annoyed that some stupid twelvie drank my alcohol!
I avoided my friends for a while, dancing and having a good time with others at the party. I remember a while later both coming up to me on the dance floor. I was quickly told by one of them that she asked Mathew what happened about us and he said I had lied, I am so proud of my damn response, I looked her square in the eyes and said if you want to believe him then fine. I ended up partying and having a good time ignoring all the stupid pain and rejection from him and my friends.
Months later Mathew ended up admitting the truth to her and I got no real apology from either of them. Bitches..
The point is after all this rambling. I stopped sleeping with guys I didn’t like. I mean sure I had a few relapses with some cute boys but I tried to stay clear from it. Sex means more to me now than just getting attention. And friendship means sticking up for others and believing your friends. Fuck Kayla though and fuck Mathew circa 2014/15.
I also think sex is sex and imma have it with whomever but now I think about whether I like the person or I’m attracted to them first.
Friends come and go but sex memories will always give you a good laugh.
I will never forget seeing a grown man hunched over in the dark trying to get hard.